What We (The Church) Should Have Told Sam Brinton, Jay Santiago… and Me

Sam Brinton was the confused young son of Baptist missionaries. Beginning at a young age, he was confused by homosexual desires. In an effort to eradicate this homosexual temptation, his parents enrolled him in “reparative therapy.” Methods included electroshock therapy, as he specifies in the video below. When his homosexual desires did not magically disappear, we (the church) agreed with the world – that temptation defines a person. We blamed Sam, as though a pubescent kid consciously chooses to experience homosexual desires. Satan used our rejection to drive Sam nearly to suicide.

Now highly influential in the “Woke” movement, Sam makes an impact for Satan sharing his antichrist testimony to audiences at big name organizations such as Google. Until recently under investigation for theft of designer clothing, Sam held a high position under Biden in the Department of Energy. Our heresy made an antichrist of a confused little boy.

We (the church) should have told Sam Brinton:

  1. The Bible is God’s inspired, inerrant Word (2 Tim 3:16; 2 Pet 1:20-21). Satan has deceived the whole world. When large percentages of the global population disagree with God’s Word, it only serves to prove that Satan has deceived the whole world (Rev 12:9).
  2. God created Adam, and Eve to be his helpmate (Gen 1:26-27, 2:18). Two men or two women together is rebellion against God’s design. Therefore, homosexuality is sin (Rom 1:20-32).
  3. Adam and Eve sinned against God. Ever since, every human being on the planet is a fallen creation. Our hearts / feelings are deceitful and cannot be trusted (Jer 17:9). Every human being has sinned and is tempted to sin (1 Cor 10:13; Rom 3:10, 23). This includes born-again believers.
  4. Temptation is a byproduct of our fallen nature. Temptation is not “who we are.”
  5. Experiencing temptation is not sin. Even Christ was tempted, yet without sin. However, following temptation is sin (Heb 4:15).
  6. Following homosexual temptation is sin, just like following temptation to lie is sin.
  7. Some sins are more socially acceptable than others (e.g. gossip, gluttony). However, homosexual sin is just as forgivable as lying (1 Cor 6:9-11).
  8. Every human being is called to repentance and faith in the Lord Jesus Christ – to turn away from following our deceitful hearts to instead follow God’s Word (2 Pet 3:9; Acts 3:19; John 3:3, 16, 36).
  9. After being born-again to new life in Christ, every believer is called to daily self-sacrifice (Rom 12:1-2). We are called to find true purpose, enduring satisfaction and peace in the Lord Jesus Christ, through obedience to His Word (Matt 16:24-26; John 6:35). Praise the Lord!

Jay Santiago was a gifted ex-gay, effective in ministry. He chose to represent “The Way, The Truth and The Life” by being honest and forthright about his enduring struggles (John 14:6). Imagine that. In doing so, Jay’s message brought discomfort through conviction to pastors whose livelihoods depend on upholding the lie that they have reached a state of sinless / temptation-less perfection (1 John 1:8-10). Relentlessly criticized and rejected by professing believers, Jay ultimately returned to his former lifestyle.

Jay is well aware that following homosexual desires is sin (Rom 1:22-27). He knows that he will find no enduring satisfaction in the gay world (Heb 11:25; John 10:10). If he is born-again, I trust that the Lord will chastise and bring him back (Heb 12:6-11).

However, many in Jay’s shoes have gone on to commit suicide. If that is his story, I believe the Lord would not hold his accusers and aggressors guiltless.

“But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.” Matthew 18:6

We (the church) should have told Jay Santiago:

We (the church) are not better than you. We all have sinned and continue to experience sinful desires daily.

Look at us. Many of us are obese. Rather than fight against our sinful nature with the power of Christ, we have obviously “thrown in the towel.” If our struggle was homosexual desires rather than gluttony, we would be sodomites.

Sit with us for ten minutes. You’ll hear us gossip like a bunch of old women. We pass judgment on everyone but ourselves. Meanwhile, we are by no means sinless / temptation-less finished works (Phil 1:6). Our sins just happen to be more socially acceptable than yours. You are no less a finished work than any of us.

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” 1 Corinthians 10:13

Matt Karchner married against godly counsel a foreign woman he barely knew, the first woman to whom he ever had a genuine, significant sexual attraction. He was nearly 40 years old. His situation is not an “apples to apples” comparison to that of you and your spouse. Having been successful in her life, Matt’s wife insisted on leading rather than following her husband. Her efforts sought to thwart God’s call on Matt’s life.

As crises mounted, he escalated to pastoral counsel. Pastor after pastor refused to crack open God’s Word. Instead, they advised him to “follow” and “submit to” his wife. After all, this “feels right” in today’s “Woke” America.

We (the church) should have told Matt and his wife:

  1. God created woman for man, not man for woman (1 Cor 11:9). Woman was created for the purpose of being man’s helpmate (Gen 2:18).
  2. God called Matt, not Rebekah (Num 12). Rebekah is called to be Matt’s helpmate. The Lord did not design Matt to be Rebekah’s helpmate.
  3. Christ is the head of man. Man is the head of woman. She will submit to him in all things, as unto the Lord (Eph 5:22-33). Husband shall rule over wife (Gen 3:16).
  4. The Lord forbids woman to usurp her husband’s authority. She is called to obey her husband (1 Tim 2:11-14; Tit 2:3-5; 1 Pet 1-6).
  5. Satan tempted Eve in the first demonic husband-wife role reversal. Adam sinned against God by following his wife rather than leading her, with everlastingly devastating consequences (Gen 3:16-19). Abraham followed, rather than leading, his wife Sarah. His sin with Hagar gave us the “wild donkey” Arab nations (Gen 15:1-6, 16:1-12).
  6. Matt following his wife (e.g. into secular employment, down another ministry path) is to deny the specific call of God on his life, is to sin against the Lord.

Opinions are irrelevant. We (the church) should have told them… You should have told us… You should have told me… The Bible Truth.

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.” Romans 12:2

Read my (Matt’s) full story, referenced above, in The Church: We Shoot Our Wounded, available here and follow-up blog post here.

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3 Replies to “What We (The Church) Should Have Told Sam Brinton, Jay Santiago… and Me”

    1. Wow!! So true so true! We the church should start loving our neighbor as we love ourselves! Jesus help me show more love and less judgment! Thank you dear Mathew for being brave to share God’s heart and truth!
      Be blessed

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